“You wouldn’t plant a seed and then dig it up every few minutes to see if it had grown. So why do you keep questioning yourself, your hard work and your decisions? Have patience, stop overthinking and keep watering your seeds.” (Book: Happy Sexy Millionaire, by Steven Bartlett)
Halfway through the book Happy Sexy Millionaire by Steven Bartlett and I was thinking about you. I have to come up and write something about this book for you. Now.
When I first saw the title, I thought it was going to be another “self help, follow your passion and become hugely successful” kind of book.
Couldn’t be further from the truth. This was not one of those books. You know, those seemingly “inspiring books”. Steven was hugely against the idea of “following your passion”. He said, most people don’t even know what they are passionate for in life, how can they “follow their passion”? He suggested a better way to do it is just try, trust yourself, don’t listen to what the other say. While you may not have a definite passion right now, just keep going and see what you would get in the future. There was a quote that I really like from the book:
“You wouldn’t plant a seed and then dig it up every few minutes to see if it had grown. So why do you keep questioning yourself, your hard work and your decisions? Have patience, stop overthinking and keep watering your seeds.”
That was actually the first paragraph of this blog.
I could have ended it here but you know, we always overdeliver:
The reason that you are always doubting yourself, thinking that there is something more to acquire, that you are always still going out to seek more is that you are plagued by one little mental fallacy. There was a myth in this world called the “Consumption myth”. People always believe that their results and happiness always come after acquiring certain things, e.g. a new pair of running shoes, a new car, a new suit for work, etc… But the truth is after we get that one thing, we got happy for a while, and then we soon would be after the tail of another thing, then another and another… it keeps going. We are always chasing this happiness but we never get it.
This Consumption Myth has caused you to chase endlessly for all kinds of possession, devaluing what you have been doing all along, thinking that “the secret key” to success is still somewhat out there in the wild. You keep digging up the seed every few minutes to see if it had grown, and if it hadn’t, then you are going to buy all kinds of fertilisers to try to make it work. This is the real danger of the Consumption Myth.
Steven talked about this in his book as well.
Go read the book:) Worth a read.
Ryan